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1. Question from Ari: "I have gone on 2 dates with the same guy now but I know I am not interested. I see him often and I try to send hints that I am not feelin it but he doesn't seem to be getting the clue and wants to go out again. He is really nice but I don't see it going anywhere. How do I tell him that I don't want to date him without hurting his feelings?"

Dating Expert: "Ari, this is a common situation I have seen frequently over the years. It's a real concern for a lot of girls to not hurt a boy's feelings, but here is how it is. Guys don't like to waste their time dating girls that aren't interested. Each guy is different, but many of them don't pick up on as many hints as women think they do. You just need to tell him how is it. The more to the point the better. Wait till the next time he asks you out and just tell him how you feel. There is no golden phrase that will make it so his feelings will never be hurt. This is just apart of how dating goes. If something doesn't work out, you move on. You can be honest without being rude. Don't drag it on, just treat it like a band aid. Rejection is no fun for anyone, but he would rather you end things if you are really not interested so he can move on rather than spending countless hours in the time to come thinking of ways to impress you."

2. Question from Ben: "I just went on my third date with a girl who I thought was pretty interested in me. I intentionally put in a movie so we could get some cuddle action going on but she seemed kind of stand-offish. It was a double date with two of my friends, no one that she knew...do you think that is the reason why?

Dating Expert: "Ben, if she has never met the other couple before it is natural for a girl not to feel in her most comfortable element. Give her a chance to get to know your friends and vise versa. Also, each girl's readiness to reciprocate physical affection with a date comes at different times. If she still shows interest in future dates and seems to really enjoy her time with you, it could be that she is just not ready to go into the next step just yet, but thats not to say it won't come soon. Give her some more time. If she is interested in you it should come in the next few dates."